饶恕与和好 · Forgiveness & reconciliation · 灵修案例 · Devotional example
不再用旧事赢争论 · 把感受说清楚Leaving an old offense out of an argument · Name the feeling
小羊寻光原创 · SeekLight original
经文 · 和合本 1919 / KJV（公版） · Scripture · CUV 1919 / KJV (public domain)
不要以恶报恶、众人以为美的事、要留心去作。 若是能行、总要尽力与众人和睦。 亲爱的弟兄、不要自己伸冤、宁可让步、听凭主怒．因为经上记着、『主说、伸冤在我．我必报应。』 所以『你的仇敌若饿了、就给他吃．若渴了、就给他喝．因为你这样行、就是把炭火堆在他的头上。』 你不可为恶所胜、反要以善胜恶。
English
Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
在生活中默想 · 灵修解释 · Reflecting in daily life · Devotional interpretation
罗马书 12 劝勉信徒不报复，并在力所能及的范围寻求和平。这段也把审判交给神；应用时应区分和平、恢复亲近和保障安全。 争论新问题时，我又想拿过去的错误压倒对方。不报复也涉及怎样使用记忆。旧问题若仍需要处理，可以另外约时间，而不把它变成武器。 今天的一小步：把当前问题写成一句话，另行约定是否讨论旧事。 感受值得被承认，但感受不是全部事实。试着区分已经发生的事、自己的解释和还不知道的部分。
English
Romans 12 urges believers to refuse revenge and seek peace as far as possible, entrusting judgment to God. Application must distinguish peace, renewed closeness, and safety. During a new disagreement, I want to use an old mistake to win. Nonretaliation includes how memory is used. Unresolved history can be discussed separately rather than used as a weapon. A small step today: State the current issue in one sentence and separately agree whether to revisit the past. Feelings deserve acknowledgment, but they are not the whole story. Distinguish what happened, your interpretation, and what remains unknown.
留给自己的问题 · A question to sit with
在「不再用旧事赢争论」中，哪些是事实，哪些是我目前的猜测？
English
As I reflect on “Leaving an old offense out of an argument”: What are facts, and what are still my guesses?
今天的一小步 · One small step today
把事实与猜测分成两栏写下。
English
Write facts and guesses in two separate columns.
回应祷告 · Prayer response
天父，争论新问题时，我又想拿过去的错误压倒对方。赐我诚实面对感受的勇气，也赐我分辨事实与猜测的耐心。 奉耶稣的名，阿们。
English
Father, During a new disagreement, I want to use an old mistake to win. Give me courage to face my feelings and patience to separate facts from assumptions. In Jesus' name, amen.