饶恕与和好 · Forgiveness & reconciliation · 灵修案例 · Devotional example
不再用旧事赢争论 · 看见身边的人Leaving an old offense out of an argument · Notice the people involved
小羊寻光原创 · SeekLight original
经文 · 和合本 1919 / KJV（公版） · Scripture · CUV 1919 / KJV (public domain)
不要以恶报恶、众人以为美的事、要留心去作。 若是能行、总要尽力与众人和睦。 亲爱的弟兄、不要自己伸冤、宁可让步、听凭主怒．因为经上记着、『主说、伸冤在我．我必报应。』 所以『你的仇敌若饿了、就给他吃．若渴了、就给他喝．因为你这样行、就是把炭火堆在他的头上。』 你不可为恶所胜、反要以善胜恶。
English
Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
在生活中默想 · 灵修解释 · Reflecting in daily life · Devotional interpretation
罗马书 12 劝勉信徒不报复，并在力所能及的范围寻求和平。这段也把审判交给神；应用时应区分和平、恢复亲近和保障安全。 争论新问题时，我又想拿过去的错误压倒对方。不报复也涉及怎样使用记忆。旧问题若仍需要处理，可以另外约时间，而不把它变成武器。 今天的一小步：把当前问题写成一句话，另行约定是否讨论旧事。 我的处境也牵连着别人。认真分辨谁需要被倾听、谁能提供支持，以及哪些边界需要被尊重。
English
Romans 12 urges believers to refuse revenge and seek peace as far as possible, entrusting judgment to God. Application must distinguish peace, renewed closeness, and safety. During a new disagreement, I want to use an old mistake to win. Nonretaliation includes how memory is used. Unresolved history can be discussed separately rather than used as a weapon. A small step today: State the current issue in one sentence and separately agree whether to revisit the past. My situation also involves other people. Consider who needs to be heard, who can offer support, and which boundaries deserve respect.
留给自己的问题 · A question to sit with
在「不再用旧事赢争论」中，谁的需要还没有被我听见？
English
As I reflect on “Leaving an old offense out of an argument”: Whose need have I not yet heard?
今天的一小步 · One small step today
向一位合适的人提出一个具体、尊重边界的问题。
English
Ask an appropriate person one specific question while respecting boundaries.
回应祷告 · Prayer response
天父，争论新问题时，我又想拿过去的错误压倒对方。帮助我在关心自己时，也以尊重和爱对待身边的人。 奉耶稣的名，阿们。
English
Father, During a new disagreement, I want to use an old mistake to win. Help me care for myself while treating those around me with respect and love. In Jesus' name, amen.