饶恕与和好 · Forgiveness & reconciliation · 灵修案例 · Devotional example
拒绝用道歉交换原谅 · 选择一小步An apology without a demand · Choose one small step
小羊寻光原创 · SeekLight original
经文 · 和合本 1919 / KJV（公版） · Scripture · CUV 1919 / KJV (public domain)
不要以恶报恶、众人以为美的事、要留心去作。 若是能行、总要尽力与众人和睦。 亲爱的弟兄、不要自己伸冤、宁可让步、听凭主怒．因为经上记着、『主说、伸冤在我．我必报应。』 所以『你的仇敌若饿了、就给他吃．若渴了、就给他喝．因为你这样行、就是把炭火堆在他的头上。』 你不可为恶所胜、反要以善胜恶。
English
Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men. If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men. Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
在生活中默想 · 灵修解释 · Reflecting in daily life · Devotional interpretation
罗马书 12 劝勉信徒不报复，并在力所能及的范围寻求和平。这段也把审判交给神；应用时应区分和平、恢复亲近和保障安全。 我道歉时很想立刻听见对方说没关系。在这个具体处境中，先看清已经发生的事，再分辨我能承担的部分。信仰的回应可以在一次诚实的表达与一个具体行动中慢慢展开。 今天可以这样练习：说清责任和改变，把是否回应以及何时回应留给对方。 回应经文不一定是宏大的决定。一个能在今天完成的小行动，可能比笼统地要求自己改变更诚实。
English
Romans 12 urges believers to refuse revenge and seek peace as far as possible, entrusting judgment to God. Application must distinguish peace, renewed closeness, and safety. While apologizing, I want immediate reassurance that everything is fine. Begin with what actually happened and distinguish your responsibilities. A faithful response can unfold through honest words and a concrete action. A practice for today: Name responsibility and change, leaving the response and timing to the other person. Responding to Scripture need not mean a grand decision. One achievable action today may be more honest than a vague promise to change.
留给自己的问题 · A question to sit with
在「拒绝用道歉交换原谅」中，今天哪一步在我的责任范围内？
English
As I reflect on “An apology without a demand”: Which step is within my responsibility today?
今天的一小步 · One small step today
从这篇原有的实践建议里，选最小的一步并安排时间。 说清责任和改变，把是否回应以及何时回应留给对方。
English
Choose the smallest part of this reading's practice and put it on today's calendar. Name responsibility and change, leaving the response and timing to the other person.
回应祷告 · Prayer response
天父，我道歉时很想立刻听见对方说没关系。赐我勇气去做今天能做的事，也让我接纳自己的有限。 奉耶稣的名，阿们。
English
Father, While apologizing, I want immediate reassurance that everything is fine. Give me courage to do what I can today and grace to accept my limits. In Jesus' name, amen.